Chapter 1: Killing My Patriarchal Father

In this chapter I’ll explain the importance of communal and hierarchical spaces to play, what they are, how I discovered them on my journey between the cities of Kyoto, Berlin and Stockholm, and why they ultimately must be destroyed.

Like Freud told me

Like father told me

Like they told me

It was bound to happen

When I was brave enough

After embracing it all

All the rituals and hierarchies

I don’t want it to be so meaningful

But it is

Surrendering to him

Dominating him

For now I am him

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FIRST PARADOX

BEING AND DOING

SECOND PARADOX

SELF-SACRIFICE

AND SELFISHNESS

THIRD PARADOX

SELFISHNESS AND

HOLDING SPACE

FOURTH PARADOX

UNITY AND POLARITY

FIFTH PARADOX

SYMBOLS AND REALITY

FIRST RITUAL

SUBMISSION

SECOND RITUAL

DEVOTION

THIRD RITUAL

REJECTION

FOURTH RITUAL

DESIRE

FIFTH RITUAL

DEATH

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