Chapter 3: Rope Bondage As The Love Child Of Sadomasochism And Esoteric Eroticism

In this chapter I’ll give a first perspective of what sadomasochism could be, how it fits so well with esoteric eroticism, and finally I’ll give an in-depth exploration of what Japanese rope bondage means to me.

Come on let’s pretend

let me tie your hands

let me lead the way

We are not going far

just far enough 

to that hidden place

To my secret garden

where we are untouchable

by seriousessnessneesness 

Let me lay down that blanket

let me invite you in

to that hidden place

Where you are mine

If just for now

Come on let’s pretend

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FIRST PARADOX

BEING AND DOING

SECOND PARADOX

SELF-SACRIFICE

AND SELFISHNESS

THIRD PARADOX

SELFISHNESS AND

HOLDING SPACE

FOURTH PARADOX

UNITY AND POLARITY

FIFTH PARADOX

SYMBOLS AND REALITY

FIRST RITUAL

SUBMISSION

SECOND RITUAL

DEVOTION

THIRD RITUAL

REJECTION

FOURTH RITUAL

DESIRE

FIFTH RITUAL

DEATH

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