Category: #the human bondage

  • Video: Behind the Scenes (2023)

    Video: Behind the Scenes (2023)

    Sorry for the lack of new material. I’m still busy with the book and redesigning my online persona. Hopefully, I’ll reemerge before the end of the year. Here is some behind-the-scenes footage from an upcoming documentary about rope bondage by Umut Vedat (www.umutvedat.com), and the person I am tying is Heidi Hanso.

  • Gallery: That old ghost house (2023)

    Gallery: That old ghost house (2023)

    In Japanese folklore, it’s a common belief that everything has a spirit. A household object that is older than one hundred years can be possessed by a Yōkai, a spirit or ghost, and become Tsukumogami (付喪神). As long as you treat the object respectfully, there is nothing to worry about. But if you don’t… That’s…

  • My Ikebana Teacher (2023)

    My Ikebana Teacher (2023)

    …another collection of flowers wrapped in more newspaper and the same paper with the same instructions. I soon realise that I learn more from how my teacher greets me in the morning and brews tea than from her instructions about cutting leaves, shaping branches and picking flowers. There is a way of being, being taught,…

  • Gallery: In the Eye of Olavi Sõna (2023)

    Gallery: In the Eye of Olavi Sõna (2023)

    More photos by Estonian photographer Olavi Sõna that capture a session with me and Heidi Hanso for the February edition of the women’s magazine, Eesti Nainee.

  • Men tying men (2023)

    Men tying men (2023)

    …and then they get to tie each other. If I have their consent, I like them to switch partners and roles. Circularly and ceremonially, moving from man to man, sometimes even with their eyes closed, to embrace each meeting as a wave of the ocean. And keeping the experience about themselves rather than forming a…

  • Gallery: Why only black and white? (2023)

    Gallery: Why only black and white? (2023)

    Why black and white only? Because it creates a dream-like abstraction from reality. That is already there in my play. The sadomasochistic power game we play is not real because it’s conscious and consensual. And once it ends, we are back to the status quo. But we allow ourselves to fall in love with the…

  • Gallery: In Krakow (2022)

    Gallery: In Krakow (2022)

    Another photo shoot from my travels. This time in Krakow, Poland, and an old industrial building turned into an art space for dance and aerial performances. Photos by maciakfoto.pl

  • Gallery: Silent woods (2022)

    Gallery: Silent woods (2022)

    Recently my musing has become much more silent. The reason is that I’m working on a book by putting my thought process from the last five years into a single narrative and combining that with some personal stories. It will probably take a year; meanwhile, I’ll try to post more pictures—this time from the autumn…

  • Video: More I tie, Less I do (2022)

    Video: More I tie, Less I do (2022)

    I have been slow on writing the past few weeks. Instead I’ve been working on a bigger project, but for now, enjoy this video from the ÜHENDUSES festival in Estonia.

  • Ode to the throat (2022)

    Ode to the throat (2022)

    Finally, the tongue, I almost forgot it. It grows surprisingly deeply into the throat. Tying it, pulling it out and directing its movement affects the whole throat and, therefore, the spine, the limbs and the entire body. There is something animal-like about it—to interact with the world using the tongue. Licking as a sign of…

  • Workshop: Happily masochistic (2022)

    Workshop: Happily masochistic (2022)

    Is the experience still masochistic if the protagonist is no longer the one in pain? During this time, we will explore the perversions and taboos of the dominant using the mutual trust built in our previous physical and emotional masochistic practices. I think there is a seed of curiosity planted after experiencing the vulnerability of…

  • What emotions are welcome in your bondage? (2022)

    What emotions are welcome in your bondage? (2022)

    For me, the negative emotion closest at hand in bondage is sadness. I often describe my sessions as sad love stories, and my soundtrack almost always plays in the minor scales. There is a sense of longing, longing for belonging, and longing for freedom. But it never gets there. When diving deeply into a power…