Perversion of Tea Ritual, Berlin

December 29 @ 7:00 pm 11:59 pm

https://www.iksk-berlin.de/Program

Berlin, Germany
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What does it mean?

More information below…

Philosophical Themes

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ROPE

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SM

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RITUAL

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PARTY

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SM

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ROPE

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RITUAL

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What does it mean?

In reality, I teach all these three themes on three different experience levels. In Japanese, there is an expression called shuhari. It means to obey (shu), to question (ha), and to leave (ri). And it reflects my views on having a ‘good’ teacher-student relationship.

Obey

To obey is the peaceful and curious beginners mindset. It requires almost zero previous experience or practical knowledge. You may be asked to spend a couple of hours reading a text or watching an online tutorial beforehand. More focus is on going slow and establishing consent within clear instructions and exercises. The goal is to hold your hand tightly but still allow little detours and personal journies as you are introduced to the subject. You don’t have to know beforehand what you like and don’t like. You need no desires or fantasies. Instead, the teaching style will provide you with a smorgasbord of experiences to try, of which some you might love and others you might hate.

Personally, looking at my rope bondage practice, I tend to always circle back to obeying the basics. So the more advanced I get, the more basic my longings become.

Question

To question requires the courage to know what you want. And that takes some previous experience and practical knowledge. If ropes are involved, you should be able to wrap the upper and lower body, creating something stable that can take the weight and attaching new ties to existing structures for partly lifting the body. You should also have experience with how your body and mind react in vulnerable and intimate situations and how to communicate your boundaries. It’s beneficial if you also have an idea about the fantasies and desires that lead you to these explorations. You will probably also be introduced to new niche techniques and be given both practical training and time to play. The goal is to provide you with a journey where you can surprise yourself and hopefully question both your beliefs and my teachings on the subject.

Leave

To leave is the last step to become your own master. It requires you to already have a practice of your own. If ropes are involved, your technique must be good enough to suspend your partner or be suspended yourself, at least partially. You are assumed to have an understanding of consent, non-verbal communication, and all the grey zones that come with it. And have a sense of your traumas, triggers and possibly risky behaviours. The exercises are more ritualistic and experimental and go on longer without breaking the play for snack breaks and check-ins. There is less focus on practical skills, as you are assumed to already have a big enough pallet to play, and instead, there is more emphasis on creating an environment for you to master your craft.

Sayōnara, ‘goodbye’
literally ‘if that’s the way it is’.

Rope Bondage

Japanese way of bondage

Shu-ha-ri; to obey, question and leave. Your muscle memory will be drilled in some repetitive patterns (probably inspired by the Japanese granddaddy of ropes, Yukimura) while the mind is left to question your personal story for playing out these sadomasochistic desires.

Modern European improvisations

Inspired by dance, theatre and bodywork, we will approach rope bondage as a listening practice. Listening to yourself, your partners, and the time and space around you. Attempting to dissect and recompose rope as an intimate bond between people.  

Exploring intimacy without sexuality

Everyone longs for intimacy, but it is often confused with sexuality. To fuck, as if that was the grand goal of all relationships. Learn to slow down, be more creative, and discover a myriad of other paths exploring intimacy.

Eastern and Western Eros

You will learn to create “a session” as a joint exploration of desires. We will work with defining identities, kinks and dynamics but also letting go of them and let passion rule. How much of your deviant self do you dear to express in your bondage?

Letting go of shame

If tight ropes and contorted body postures express physical masochism, then shame is the core of the emotional counterpart. Beauty, competence and elegance are all masks we wear to fit in. What if they are dropped or lovingly torn off to expose that raw, unfiltered you? 

Surrender as a strategy for life

People who learn to endure are more successful in capitalistic life. Google the marshmallow challenge. However, people that endure are also the ones who burn out, get emotionally numb, and often wonder if life hasn’t more to offer. Welcome to try surrendering instead.

Connecting to esoteric eroticism and therapy

What is a spiritual practice, and what is nourishing for the soul? Rope bondage takes most people on vulnerable and intimate journies. Of course, it can just be for funs, but it’s also possible to give your actions a deeper meaning through ritual, intention and dedication.

Sadomasochism

Pain, predicaments and (f)punishment

Pain is both highly personal and relational. No one can ever feel your pain, but the source of it is everything. Are you suffering in devotion, getting punished for being naughty, or finding yourself in an impossible predicament to the sadistic glee of your dominant?

Bodywork and breathwork

Prana, the word of breath in many esoteric teachings, translates to life force. Manipulating the breath, muscle tension, and body torsion transforms the experienced reality: yours or another. Learn how to integrate this into your sadomasochistic play.

Tripping without drugs on endorphins and dopamine

When receiving pain, the body, mind and soul face a fundamental choice: surrender with endorphins or resist with adrenaline. Learning to give and receive both physical and emotional pain to fly away on the endorphin tripp will keep you and your partners giggly happy for days.

Domination and submission

Mastering this fundamental polarity of sadomasochistic play gives the leather floggers and jute ropes a deeper meaning. And it can be so deceivingly simple: in the bend of a neck, a spine moved slightly out of balance, eyes attention gently directed. This elegant silence speaks louder than any violence.

Sadism and masochism

The sadist and masochist seduce each other with their passionate, wild desires. At some point, pain and pleasure merge as waves of intensity wash over the lovers. Everything becomes orgasmic intensity. Learning to trust, encouraging each other to let go and finding yourself there together is the key.

Philosophical ideas about power

Everything in the world is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power. Learning to play consciously and consensually with hierarchies makes us more resilient against them in everyday life. Sadomasochism is, in many ways, a theatrical parody that turns our hardships into excitement.

Fetishism, leather and rubber

Explore the symbolic realm of smells, textures and aesthetics. Let them overwhelm you, possess you, redefine you. Let these cults and cultures guide you. But also learn to respect them, as they likely have been around much longer than you and will still be there once you are gone.

Rituals

Tea and death ceremonies

Trauma and inquiry work

Playing with rejection and desire

Devotion to people and the mystery

Embodied meditations and dance

Long-term sensory deprivation

Exploring archetypes and symbols

Play Party

Discovering fantasies and taboos

Theatre and contact improvisation

Deconstruction of personality

Consent and boundary practices

Ensemble and group collaboration

Role-playing and mask possession

Temple spaces and ceremonies