How I learnt about Wabi-Sabi (2018)
Bondage and beauty is for me closely related. Both on a philosophical and aesthetical level. I truly enjoy the japanese imagery of bondage which is often related to suffering and mortality. It is often referred to as Wabi-Sabi, which is sometimes translated to the beauty of imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete. A couple of years ago I wanted to learn about this. Many people said that only a japanese can truly understand Wabi-Sabi. But I wanted to try and here is my journey into the world of japanese aesthetics for those who want to follow in my footsteps.
Video: Andy & Rina (2016)
Video: Movement reaction from restriction (2016)
Video: In the eye of the public (2016)
Workshop: Tantra meets kinbaku (2016)
In this workshop, you will learn how to use the ropes safely and successfully, to create a magic place where emotions can flow and a conscious play with power. You will learn to use ritualization to create your own magical place and negotiation of a consensual power dynamic.
People’s first reaction to Kinbaku is usually a surprisingly pleasurable encounter. They describe the ropes as extended arms in an embracing and bounding hug rather than restrictive. The communication between the person who ties and the person who gets tied is intimate and caring.
However, under this pleasurable surface there is an array of emotional and physical experiences that can be explored in depth – pleasure, pain, power, surrender, playfulness, stillness and intimacy.
In society today there is an imbalance that values power higher than surrender. The results are conflict and exhaustion in a non-consensual power dynamic. When done consensually letting go into surrender is peaceful and holding power is empowering, and together they create an intimate connection between two or more people.
To responsibly hold power and letting go into surrender are skills that can be taught and practiced. Experience how power dynamics can temporarily help you let go of perfectionism, control freakishness and decisiveness, and feel the empowerment and sensuality of surrender.
Judith Hermans Trauma and Recovery in a BDSM and consent perspective (2016)
The best book I’ve read on the subject of trauma is by far Judith Hermans Trauma and Recovery – The Aftermath of Violence, From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror. In this writing I would like to reflect upon parts of the content from a BDSM and consent perspective.
Trygghet, utveckling eller trauma (2016/SWE)
This is a reflection upon how to relate to trauma and personal growth in the workshop space – written in Swedish.
Video: Studie i sårbarhet (2015)
Boktips (2015/SWE)
One of the most common questions I get is about books. Here are three suggestions – the post in written Swedish.
Video: En känsla för rep (2015)
Video: Grundknuten och friktionslåset (2015)
Video: Hur man rullar rep (2015)
Rep som material (2015/SWE)
A guide to buying rope written in Swedish.
Rope Breaking Test (2013)
This is a short summary of the rope breaking tests I did at EURIX 2013 Spring a few days ago. I want to state that these tests are not aimed to be scientific evidence of anything.
Shame – a Road to Humiliation (2015)
I wanted to learn more about the emotional sides of BDSM, so I turned to three different books explaining three different models. “Masochism: A Jungian View” by Lyn Cowan, “Playing by Heart: The Vision and Practice of Belonging” by O. Fred Donaldson, and “Ut ur Kalahari: Drömmen om det goda livet” (in English something like; “Leaving Kalahari: Visions of the Good Life”) by Lasse Berg. This text is my attempt to put these three models together and create something through which I can view a tiny little part of a starlit night sky.
