Devotion is the pinnacle of submission because then one moves their attention from oneself to another altogether – like worshipping a god. However, some new submissive I met find this very challenging. Maybe because their minds and bodies are disconnected, they lack the physical feedback from their nervous system. Or they already have a submissive personality and therefore are keen to put others’ needs before themselves. So they end up directly in devotion, by default, without knowing if the dominant is worthy or not.
Here are some warning signs that one is defaulting to devotion:
- Losing oneself entirely in the other, and not really until afterwards knowing if the experience was desirable or not.
- A lack of physical reactions, like deep breathing and muscle relaxation as a result of manageable pain. Or the lack of arousal from pleasure.
- No fantasies, or sexual curiosity about how who one is, or what else one could be. But instead a curiosity about others, most likely a dominate partner.
I’m not saying that devotion is wrong; I instead think it is the highlight of conscious power play. But I believe that it becomes much deeper once a submissive can feel and surrender their body, pain, pleasure, and ego.