In this chapter I’ll introduce an embodied way of approaching consent, nerd about what yes and no really are and how to play as safe as possible in a space that is ultimately not made to be safe.
To surrender is to fall.
To fall in trust, that we will be caught, by another, or by life.
We arch our spine out of balance, to where we lose control.
Backwards into the unknown. To the place that we can’t see.
We expose our heart, our neck, and our belly, as symbols of trust.
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