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#the human bondage

Freedom and restriction is one fundamental dynamic in the human existence. It’s a paradoxical relationship. Being bound grants freedom from choice and responsibility. It challenges trust and surrender. It touches upon the experience of both belonging and loneliness. But still, fundamentally, it’s always your choice. Holding this power is a paradox between expressing your own desire, and emphatically holding space for others. Shaping the body shapes the mind, altering thoughts and feelings, altering one’s entire experience. How can a single rope be a symbol for so much?

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Musings about #the human bondage

September 10, 2021
A widespread misunderstanding that I face is that rope bondage is complicated. Especially the Japanese inspired styles of shibari and kinbaku. People often think that it is only about the aesthetics, shapes and knots, while they claim to be only interested in “bondage”. There is a fundamental belief here…
September 10, 2021
August 1, 2021
I am grabbing the hands, folding the arms, and locking the wrist in preparation to wrap the body in rope. Every wrapping is another layer of holding and another step on a journey into trust and bravery. For me, tying the upper body is the most fundamental technique in…
August 1, 2021
July 31, 2021
I love the series of pictures that we took one late night this summer. Having eye contact when tying is often scary because it is so intense. That is maybe why some old-school Japanese master hid behind their sunglasses. But sometimes we are brave enough to stay in it.…
July 31, 2021
June 2, 2021
Rope bondage is excellent for exploring power and surrender and provides many interesting technical challenges for suspensions. There is the Japanese heritage with its aesthetics, narratives, and patterns. And finally, there is the communal practice. To join together and explore the ritual practice of being bound.
June 2, 2021
May 20, 2021
A rope bondage scene is a story that unfolds another world. We take off the uniforms of the everyday-life. Uniforms are given to us, indicating our place in the global hierarchy. To make us feel safe. In the story, I’m allowed to be someone else. It’s often a parody…
May 20, 2021
May 10, 2021
Often when watching pictures of bodies suspended in rope, I ask myself, are the flying or falling. Flying is strong, defying gravity, and controlling the forces of nature. Falling is different. To fall is to surrender.
May 10, 2021
April 19, 2021
I have to admit that drooling, hypersalivation, and ptyalism fascinates me. It is probably my second biggest kink after rope bondage, and let me try to digest why. Drooling is ultimately about losing control of our bodily functions, our appearance, and our social status. Animals, like Pavlov dogs, drool…
April 19, 2021
March 22, 2021
This video was recorded at the Stockholm Tantra Festival Online 2020. The song Här kommer natten by Miss Li has long been my favorite song and I’ve been dreaming about editing a video of a rope session for it. Now that dream came true.
March 22, 2021
March 7, 2021
People often asks me – but doesn’t it hurt? And I have written about the answer in length here, in the text about surrender versus enduring. But how does it look? When it is really painful, for someone that truly knows how to surrender?
March 7, 2021
February 15, 2021
My friend Natasha Nawataneko sent me her book called Somatics for Rope Bottoms, so I read it, and now I’ll dedicate this weekly musing to my thoughts on it. My first impression is that this book is not for me, as I mainly tie nowadays. The book is a…
February 15, 2021
December 18, 2020
Often when people come to me for private rope sessions, they express an interest in suspensions. The ideas about it are many; it can be “ultimate surrender”, defeating gravity, or flying. Maybe the peaceful faces often seen in bondage pictures are alluring—the beautiful suffering, that Japanese bondage has made…
December 18, 2020
October 21, 2020
Did you do a beginner’s tantric rope workshop, and want to take the next step technically while still keeping the focus on the human connection? Do you enjoy Andy more philosophical and experiential approach to bondage? And think that BDSM is more about power then whips and chains? And…
October 21, 2020
October 13, 2020
Hashira means wooden pillar and is an essential building block of Japanese wooden architecture. And in rope bondage, it refers to tying your partner onto a vertical beam. When I first started my bondage journey, I was taught how to use the single suspension point, that later developed into…
October 13, 2020
October 8, 2020
Janice Baleson (Crooked Cookie) interviews Virginie about her experience at my workshop during the Sexsibility festival. My favorite quote is that I bring out the worst of people in the most beautiful way.
October 8, 2020
September 13, 2020
Do you want to include rope bondage in your sessions? How do you dominate someone while still serving them professionally? What are the seven keys to making a stranger trust you and surrender? I’ve been developing my therapeutic rope bondage for the past ten years. I often meet bodyworkers…
September 13, 2020
September 11, 2020
Sometimes I think of rope bondage as falling. Falling into love. Falling into madness. Falling into surrender. Like jumping out of an airplane. Falling faster and faster. Knowing that one of us will have to pull the parachute cord before we smash into the group. Falling together. That is…
September 11, 2020
September 8, 2020
In a traditional tantric relationship, there is the sexual polarity between the masculine and the feminine. The masculine oscillates between serving and dominating, while the feminine between surrendering and submitting. There is no strict connection to physical gender, or what one has between their legs. However, there is a…
September 8, 2020
September 7, 2020
Violence and aggression is not the path to conscious and consensual surrender in my experience. Not most of the time, and not for most people. Still I believe all feelings worthy to explore, and this video by kinkwave.mp4 is an attempt of that.
September 7, 2020
August 6, 2020
Lately, I’ve been practicing a Taoist tea ceremony, and my teacher talks a lot about the relationship between space and content. I very much find myself to be a content-first person. That means that whenever I have some space, in my schedule or my environment, I tend to fill…
August 6, 2020
July 22, 2020
This is a video of my tying, but also the trees outside my window. I like to watch the branches … Continue Reading Video: View from my window (2020)
July 22, 2020
July 20, 2020
I’m always very curios about what people experience when tied by me. I had two sessions with this man about a year ago, and he wrote about it on his blog The Integrated Man Blog. After asking, he allowed me to crosspost it here, if he could remain anonymous.…
July 20, 2020
July 16, 2020
For me, beautiful and gratitude is deeply connected. I experience this when I get the chance to pause for a movement and marvel in the grandness of life. It brings me presence, and the longer that I can stay present, the more details are revealed to my awareness. Therefore…
July 16, 2020
July 6, 2020
I often get compliments on my photos of rope bondage. People say that they display a sort of vulnerability and melancholy, that is both haunting and beautiful. And I usually reply, without thinking too much, that is because I took them during a session. So what is this session?…
July 6, 2020
June 11, 2020
Sometimes I practice more technical ties to not forget my skills as I get lost in the philosophical parts of rope bondage. Some might be worried that the blue calf’s indicate a lack of blood circulation, but this is not the case. The color is caused by blood being…
June 11, 2020
June 9, 2020
This weeks musing is kind of a continuation of Four languages of power, as it asks – how can touch be a symbol for so much. I first got in contact with this idea of the symbolic body after leaving my career job to study medical massage therapy. Before…
June 9, 2020
May 24, 2020
This weekend I participated in an online gathering called “The Orgasmic and Loving Couple”. My contribution was to be part of a rope bondage performance. So I started to write about the theme to understand it, and the word that became most salient to me was “couple”, in the…
May 24, 2020
May 16, 2020
Sakura is the word for cherry blossom in Japanese, and it has a funny connection to rope bondage. The cherry blossom season is a national celebration in Japan, that represents youth and beauty. Not surprisingly it is a thing in the bondage community to tie a beautiful person in…
May 16, 2020
May 6, 2020
To surrender is to fall. To fall in trust, that we will be caught, by another, or by life. We arch our spine out of balance, to where we lose control. Backwards into the unknown. To the place that we can’t see. We expose our heart, our neck, and…
May 6, 2020
March 31, 2020
One source of inspiration for rope bondage is old Japanese torture techniques, that later on was turned into erotic role play. In one way the borderland is a grey zone, in another way it is crystal clear and spelled consent.
March 31, 2020
February 28, 2020
Rope bondage is often taught as a pattern, and schooling traditionally starts with the upper body harness called the Gote, or Takata Kote. I can remember my first lessons almost fifteen years ago. It was the same back then, and I was thrilled to learn the patterns of Osada…
February 28, 2020
February 11, 2020
It’s winter in Tokyo, and almost exactly ten years since I first came here to study bondage. One of my most notable teachers at that time was Yukinaga Max in Copenhagen and his partner Tina, and they taught me the way of Yukimura Haruki (who died 2016). Yukimura was…
February 11, 2020
January 8, 2020
Surprisingly to many rope bondage is unfolding in the spiritual community. From the lush jungles around Ubud to sandy beaches of Koh Phanang, to bohemian clubs of Berlin, and shamanistic circles in cold Scandinavia. How has it come to that practice from the Japanese BDSM-subculture is growing from a…
January 8, 2020
January 4, 2020
In this workshop, we will move from the physical to the emotional, on a journey through pain and predicaments. I believe that many people start as physical sadists and masochists because it is safer to play with the body than the mind, but eventually, we are all curious to…
January 4, 2020
January 4, 2020
In this workshop, the focus is the perverted desire of rope bondage, rather than engineering a technical experience. We will explore ties and theories that help the rigger to express this perverted desire on a journey through the darker path of eroticism. We will go into objectification, exposure, shame-play,…
January 4, 2020
December 7, 2019
Me and my friend Cim left a camera on during one of our sessions. For fun, I decided to edit the two hours in to six minutes, to give an insight in how an rope session can look.
December 7, 2019
November 15, 2019
Welcome to join the two upcoming rope study group of spring 2020. Themes for this season is Suspending with Andy and a repeat of the Tantric Rope Journey. The study groups are small and inmate with only four couples taking place in my home close to Skanstull (Stockholm/Sweden). This…
November 15, 2019
November 9, 2019
“Show me how you are feeling right now.” “I don’t want to.” “Why?” “Because I don’t want that to be the focus,” she tells me. “I already know my suffering, and I’m curious about you.”
November 9, 2019
October 28, 2019
I spontaneously offered a workshop on pressure points during the autumn edition of the European Riggers (and models) Exchange, and now in the aftermath, I want to share some notes and references. Maybe you will find it useful even if you didn’t participate in the workshop.
October 28, 2019
October 15, 2019
Being tied or topped is an act of vulnerability. It is evident because of the surrender of one’s body and mind. As a top, you will encounter another kind of vulnerability. You will expose your perverted and socially-deviant desires. But usually, it doesn’t start there when first learning about…
October 15, 2019
August 29, 2019
I never wrote a text on bondage and sexuality, probably because I see them so obviously intertwined. Still, I meet many people that are confused about the topic. Why are we turned on by being tied up?
August 29, 2019
August 21, 2019
I think our relationship to suffering in everyday life is very harmful. Especially living in Sweden, that is protected from significant suffering for such a long time. Add the instant gratification culture of social media where we are being taught to receive only positive experiences instantly. Like like like.…
August 21, 2019
August 20, 2019
Kontinuum – The Piano Project” is a collaboration made during Ropescape 2019. Based on a idea by Andy Buru, that is also the rigger, it mixes shibari rope suspension with piano improvisation. The composer and player is SiS, and the models are Airam Txiki, Aisha Cruz, Margout Darko, Mireia,…
August 20, 2019
July 7, 2019
In this workshop, the focus is the perverted desire of the rigger, rather than engineering experiences for the bottom. And we will explore ties and theories that help the rigger to express this perverted desire. Through objectification, exposure, shame-play, forced serving and simply taking pleasure from our bottom beyond…
July 7, 2019
June 19, 2019
Welcome to a three-day retreat where you can learn how to tie and get tied in an intuitive, present, and creative manner, independently of your previous experience. We will work with strategies for improvisation, breakdown the ideas of beauty, and see how it shapes relationships in a tie. And…
June 19, 2019
June 18, 2019
I’m sick and tired of hearing things From uptight, short-sighted, narrow-minded hypocritics All I want is the truth Just gimme some truth I’ve had enough of reading things By neurotic, psychotic, pig-headed politicians All I want is the truth Just gimme some truth No short-haired, yellow-bellied, son of tricky…
June 18, 2019
May 23, 2019
What is (one of) the most important skill to have a great rope session? The boring answer is muscle memory, because that will transform the bondage from monologue with your memory, to a dialog with your partner. Here are my best tips-and-tricks when building muscle memory for rope bondage.
May 23, 2019
May 5, 2019
Do you trust men? In this hands-on workshop, you’ll be tied up with ropes, and held by another man without force or violence. You will receive the gift of another man’s full attention and care, and you’ll practice doing the same for another man. Andy will share techniques on…
May 5, 2019
April 17, 2019
The human bondage experience tells a story between two people. In the simplest form of rope bondage, between the person tying and the person being tied. The story is created by individual fantasies coming together. Fantasies are like seeds in our unconscious waiting to be discovered and cultivated. By…
April 17, 2019
April 4, 2019
After teaching rope for almost ten years in different subcultures. The tantric community in Scandinavia has a special place in my heart. It taught me so much. To celebrate that I want to make a longer workshop tailored for the qualities and quirks that make it special to me.…
April 4, 2019
March 28, 2019
…or I ghost rigged it. Ghost rigging is the deal that I make a beautiful tie for some kind of video recording or photoshoot, but we make it look like someone else did it. In this example a young girl suspending an older man. Being busy the past years…
March 28, 2019
March 25, 2019
I’m coming home to Stockholm this autumn and I’m super-hyped to start up the weekly rope teaching again. I can’t believe that two years of theatre and directing studies are over. Looking back on what I’ve learnt and how I’ve been tying the past years I decided to run…
March 25, 2019
February 9, 2019
Hi Andy! Tantric Rope bondage! How is it tantric? What kind of tantra are you connecting it to? White, red, black, Hindu, Buddhistic, or TNT? I have received this question many times, so I wanted to answer properly here. First off, I’m NOT a tantric historian. I started to…
February 9, 2019
January 20, 2019
This photo shot together with Joakim Erixson Flodman from 2018 was a continuations of RAW:MOTIONS. We wanted to explore what kind of motion that is born out of restriction. It was shot at the top on Hammarby Backen i Stockholm on a sunny summer afternoon.
January 20, 2019
January 14, 2019
The trailer for a theatre play by Teater Tofta outside Göteborg in Sweden, that I advised for a rope scene. The name and the theme of the play is to be tied, in relationship, in love, and in ropes.
January 14, 2019
January 14, 2019
One way to think of zen is a total state of focus that incorporates a total togetherness of body and mind. Semenawa can be defined as rope that creates a feeling of helplessness and endurance, often with the use of pain and discomfort. In both Zen and Semenawa a…
January 14, 2019
January 14, 2019
Today I met the pain Raw, strong and fierce And suffering had to leave Through the magic of letting go Today, I met with shame Through humiliation and enjoyment It welcomed and already had to leave Was in a hurry to visit other’s homes Today, I met with my…
January 14, 2019
January 3, 2019
What does bondage look like in Japan? What is the aesthetic that we inspire to reach? These amazing photos by Ken Buslay speaks that to me. The decaying forest. The suffering body. Raw.
January 3, 2019
January 3, 2019
I’m known for teaching “tantric ropes” but what is that really? More focus on giving time and space to experience what is going on. And less focus on achieving something. Maybe. Here are some photos from the Tantrafestival at Ängsbacka 2017.
January 3, 2019
January 3, 2019
The girl in white is trapped in her apartment. She is patiently waiting for The Hangman whose duty it is to bind and liberate.
January 3, 2019
January 2, 2019
Trust Your Brothers is a part of the project UNKNOWN FACES, were I tie people that I never met before. In my initial call for participants only 16% were male, so I decided to continue my search. The mens network Maniphesto answered my call and invited me to record…
January 2, 2019
January 2, 2019
Once in one year I tied seventy-five people that I barely met before. It was an experiment on moments of vulnerability shared without words. It was beautiful. Ten years later I was struck with an creative urge to repeat, document, and share it.
January 2, 2019
January 2, 2019
One of my goals is to spread ropes outside our subculture. That’s why I teach in a lot of non-rope festivals. This is me trying another path, a music video with the Norwegian artist Unge Ferrari, produced by Adam Falk.
January 2, 2019
July 16, 2018
Bondage and beauty is for me closely related. Both on a philosophical and aesthetical level. I truly enjoy the japanese imagery of bondage which is often related to suffering and mortality. It is often referred to as Wabi-Sabi, which is sometimes translated to the beauty of imperfect, impermanent, and…
July 16, 2018
January 20, 2017
I’m still fascinated by documenting my early meetings with people whom I tie. This is the second time tying Rina that I met in Ubud in the beginning of 2017.
January 20, 2017
January 13, 2017
Every new person is a new possibility to develop. This is true in life and rope. I meet the Israeli dancer Cellar Door in Bali. Together we started to explore the reactions in movement that comes from restriction.
January 13, 2017
November 30, 2016
To show bondage in a space were it isn’t expected always gets me in touch with my vulnerability. It brings a emotional nakedness to show who I am and what I do. To be seen. And later meet the response of the audience. 
November 30, 2016
October 17, 2016
In this workshop, you will learn how to use the ropes safely and successfully, to create a magic place where emotions can flow and a conscious play with power. You will learn to use ritualization to create your own magical place and negotiation of a consensual power dynamic. People’s…
October 17, 2016
May 22, 2016
Warning this video can be seen a violent and aggressive. The video ‘Studie i sårbarhet’ is an experiment to show the trust that is shared in rope bondage. The vulnerability is found in both how the physical body is challenge, and the trust in handing over control.
May 22, 2016
May 3, 2016
One of the most common questions I get is about books. Here are three suggestions – the post in written Swedish.
May 3, 2016
May 3, 2016
The video “En känsla för rep” is an introduction to the feeling shared through ropes in bondage. The idea is to give curious beginners a idea how an meeting with ropes can be.
May 3, 2016
March 3, 2016
This is a short summary of the rope breaking tests I did at EURIX 2013 Spring a few days ago. I want to state that these tests are not aimed to be scientific evidence of anything.
March 3, 2016
March 3, 2016
I wanted to learn more about the emotional sides of BDSM, so I turned to three different books explaining three different models. “Masochism: A Jungian View” by Lyn Cowan, “Playing by Heart: The Vision and Practice of Belonging” by O. Fred Donaldson, and “Ut ur Kalahari: Drömmen om det…
March 3, 2016
March 3, 2016
This is a text about brains neurotransmitters how they affect us when practicing Kinbaku (Japanese rope bondage) or any kind of BDSM for that matter. The text will on a high level cover the inter-working between dopamine, endorphin, oxytocin and adrenalin. The text will also suggest how we can…
March 3, 2016