Andy Buru

Andy Buru aim to create magical rooms were people can rest, heal and grow.

about andy

Andy is a student of theatre and tea, a medical massage therapist, a former organizational coach, a conscious kinkster, and a teacher of European and Japanese rope bondage. Living in Stockholm, Sweden and working around northern Europe. During his fifteen years of BDSM, he has been a slave, an owner, a hedonist, a purist, a magician, and a slut.

Are you looking for peace and tranquillity to meet yourself and others?

My work aims to create magical rooms where people can rest, heal and grow. My tools, spirit and experience spring from neuro-semantic team building, medical massage therapy, European theatre, and Japanese rope bondage.

I work with both groups and individuals, and I love that the world is allowed to be complicated because that makes every meeting unique. My time in Japan engraved into me the presence, passion and embrace for the glimpse of zen that exists in every movement of life – and this I gladly share with you in a session, workshop, or with a cup of tea.

In the stillness between moments, life happens. Pause, witness.

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Weekly Musings and Upcoming Events

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Do you want to hire me?

I’m available for workshops, performances, and consultations, both commercial and artistic. My year schedule is something like…

January to March on vacation

April to June teaching in northern Europe

July and August touring festivals and events around Europe

September to December teaching in northern Europe

My rates vary depending on who you are and what you do. Here is a guideline with VAT and travelling and accommodation costs excluded.

Evening (3h)
4.000 SEK / 400 EURO

Day (6h)
8.000 SEK / 800 EURO

Weekend (18h)
24.000 SEK / 2400 EURO

If you have an artistic non-profit project, cut the price in half, but double the price if you have a money-focused commercial project, like me doing a behind-the-scenes rope installation for your high fashion marketing campaign.

I offer two types of collaborations. Either you make me an offer (based on the guidelines above), and I’ll invoice you the day of the event, and you then have two weeks to pay. Or we can make a risk-and-profit sharing set up for a weekend or longer events, where we share the profit 70/30% after all expenses are paid.

I also do some passion projects for free and am always open to negotiating, so please don’t hesitate to reach out.

Venues and group sizes

It depends on what you want me to teach. I’ve done workshops with 400 people in festivals and intimate gatherings with three couples. But here are some guidelines.

Bondage workshops that include full- or semi-suspension are limited to around 8 couples for safety reasons.

Play party-focused work needs at least 12 participants to work well.

Three people or two couples is more of a session and less of a workshop.

Bondage workshops where I provide the ropes are limited to 75 people due to what I have to borrow.

My usual workshop times for a weekend are; Friday 19-22. Saturday 10-13, 15-18 & 19-21. Sunday 10-13 & 15-18.

I can teach bondage for a week without suspension points.

Retreats where we also eat, sleep and isolate ourselves from the outside world generally go deeper faster.

What do I teach?

To be honest, most of my workshops nowadays are improvised around a previously decided topic. I have a large collection of intimacy exercises, play scenarios, bondage narratives, and philosophical ideas as inspiration. However, it seems like I still need to write something to help promote my events, and below, you can see some examples of that.

Previous collaborations

Musings about Andy

May 22, 2023

Reimagining the session work (2023)

“Every session with Andy is like opening a mysterious box of secrets – secrets that are deeply hidden under numerous layers of external garbage that I tend to call ‘self’. I never know what I’ll find inside. I come with some messy armful of things…” Lena
May 22, 2023
April 22, 2023

Writing a book is like rewriting myself (2023)

My present work aims to create magical rooms where people can rest, heal and grow in their relationships to surrender, power and desire. I move between art and therapy. In the arts, I venture for the maximum risk I can afford in the present to challenge the status quo. Therapy…
April 22, 2023
January 27, 2023

Interview with Eesti Nainee (2023)

Woman Magazine Eesti Nainee: …many men who come to my retreats are performance-oriented towards external success. They must have a good job, an expensive car, a nice house and a beautiful, well-groomed woman so that others can see the man’s success. But often they don’t know at all what they like….
January 27, 2023
January 3, 2023

Rituals and Paradoxes, my book project (2023)

2023 is here. And I’m starting the year off in solitude in the Japanese mountains outside Osaka. I aim to work on my book project while walking the woods, relaxing in the hot springs, and learning my new camera. Here is what I know so far. The working title is…
January 3, 2023
December 2, 2022

Yearly Playlist (2022)

Remember that particular song for a festival or retreat? The one that made that exercise so extraordinary. I’m often asked for music and playlists, and almost always, I’m actually DJ:ing while teaching, so there is no one playlist. However, here is a yearly mix of what I liked and played…
December 2, 2022
March 11, 2022

Navigating spirituality and sexuality (2022)

The first fear is strangely connected to consent. Or the question, what can I consent to? In my background of BDSM, there is a practice of radical self-expression, or as it’s often said, “Your kink is not my kink, but your kink is okay” (YKINMKBYKIO). It comes from the belief…
March 11, 2022
October 7, 2021

The movie PLEASURE and on BDSM and pornography (2021)

A few days ago, I was at the gala premiere of a new movie called PLEASURE. The director spent the last six years infiltrating or befriending the pornography scene in Los Angeles to the point that she got some of the most influential people to act in her movie. The…
October 7, 2021
October 2, 2021

Volunteering at events (2021)

What does it mean to be a volunteer or assistant at my events? I often get this question, so I thought it was worth answering it more in-depth in this musing. Most important is to be of service, which means that you are more interested in the experience of others…
October 2, 2021
September 14, 2021

Interview: the UNcivilized podcast (2021)

The movie 50 Shades of Gray came out in 2015, revealing a not very recent subject. Since it dates from the time leather, whips, and free sexual expression dominated the gay subculture. Today, this topic has given rise to much debate in our society, and everyone wants to know “What…
September 14, 2021
July 16, 2021

Swedish podcast “Hur Kan Vi?” about BDSM and trauma (2021)

This one is a bit scary. It’s a two hour uncut conversation about BDSM and trauma with my friends Li and Navid. It has 100.000 – 200.000 views per episode, and has previously been featuring a long line-up of provocateurs, causing ruckus in the mainstream media. It is always a…
July 16, 2021
February 25, 2021

The sad battle of feminist influencers vs BDSM practitioners (2021)

For some reason, some people are turned on by violence and degradation, and I believe that the most empowering thing we can do is create a community and knowledge, so people can choose how to live their lives. Maybe in a hundred years, when patriarchal values are balanced with matriarchal…
February 25, 2021
February 12, 2021

Social media, power games, and BDSM play (2021)

It’s more and more common for me to encounter people shocked by BDSM imagery. Lately when the Swedish gallery Fotografiska posted a self-portrait of a thirty-year-old Chinese photographer in rope bondage. People on social media were outraged; they thought he was a child, in pain, or didn’t consent to his…
February 12, 2021
February 2, 2021

Interviewed by Mofjrdtalks Podcast (2021)

“BDSM FOR BEGINNERS In this weeks episode I connect with the teacher and bodyworker Andy Buru for a conversation about conscious kink and BDSM. Andy is teaching European and Japanese rope bondage with the intention to create magical rooms where people can rest, heal and grow. What is it with powerplay…
February 2, 2021
January 14, 2021

This pandemic and surrender (2021)

Hello Andy, good afternoon, you have been coming up more and more, on my newsfeed etc., and I had this understanding, how your work plays a big metaphorical part right now in where we are. Collectively. With COVID. With understanding the magic in sometimes being bound in something. And allowing…
January 14, 2021
December 12, 2020

The skeleton woman (2020)

“You helped me see my skeleton woman and I’m so fucking grateful for that. I was so bored with everyone around trying to make a good impression on me. So scared of what happens if I didn’t impress someone. If I didn’t make others need me and let go of…
December 12, 2020
September 14, 2020

Love love love and relationships (2020)

Hollywood is kidnapping the word love. They are using it to sell romantic comedies and reality shows. You know the Disney princess that marries the prince and lives happily ever after. There is a kinky roleplay scenario for this because it is a fantasy and not reality. Love is something…
September 14, 2020
August 30, 2020

Interviewed by The Modern Erotic Podcast (2020)

“Andy is an avid writer, researcher and teacher of his topic and frames the subject of BDSM, rope bondage and power play with a very philosophical approach. Engaging with our primal essence and integrating it so we can work with it and not against it can be a challenge, but through…
August 30, 2020
August 26, 2020

Festival Summer Playlist (2020)

Well, this summer was a bit of a COVID-bummer but at least I spent two weeks at Ängsbacka teaching the things I love. Here are some of the songs that I used.
August 26, 2020
July 25, 2020

To my beloved predator (2018)

I wrote this a few years ago as an attempt to understand myself. It started with my participation in the 2018 European Men’s Gathering provoking my belief that what I have learned about masculinity through BDSM is of great value. I like the analogy that BDSM is a predator living…
July 25, 2020
May 20, 2020

Male sexuality and society (2020)

Writing this week’s musing is an ambiguous task. Since I’m in the teaching crew of the European Men’s Gathering, I sometimes join discussions on the Maniphesto email list. Recently someone asked – What is the impact of male sexuality on society?
May 20, 2020
August 16, 2019

What is a “bold” workshop? (2019)

Fay was one of the participants at the Art of Submission whom got triggered and she was generous enough to share her story, and what for her made the difference between a good and a bad experience. And I think it puts the finger on what for me is a…
August 16, 2019
August 7, 2019

Interviewed by The Robin Hallsten Experience (2019)

I made a new friend among the 950 participants of the Ängsbacka Tantrafestival last week. He participated in three of my workshop in felt touched by the depth and sadness of my work, so we decided to sit down for an interview. We cover topics about masculinity and vulnerability, the role…
August 7, 2019


Andy är en grym workshopledare. Han förmår att skapa en trygg grupp och samtidigt skapa utmanande situationer. Jag har lärt mig massor om rep och att binda och bli bunden. […]


Repsessionerna med Andy har överträffat alla mina föreställningar och eventuella förväntningar. Hade till för några månader sedan aldrig trott att jag skulle pröva på detta med att låta mig bindas. […]

Lena Månstråle

Being bound by Andy was an extraordinary experience. His calm and focussed presence very quickly put me at total ease and I could fully relax into the experience. Within minutes […]


Lite svårt att placera helgen… Å ena sidan intensivt, djupt, utmanande, nytt. Men samtidigt väldigt enkelt, okomplicerat, inget märkvärdigt alls. Som i att det kändes så intuitivt rätt och enkelt, […]


Andy är tydlig, bjuder på dig själv, skapar trygghet, kunnig både kring kropp och rep, pedagogisk, trevlig, kreativ, personlig, engagerad och genuin.


Jag har provat många olika healing- och behandlingsmetoder de senaste åren och måste säga att min repterapisession med Andy har varit ett av de bästa sätten för mig att förlösa […]


Tack alla att jag fick dela den dagen med er. En intensiv upplevelse – men efter en natts vila känner jag mig lugn och tillfreds. Aldrig trodde jag att rep […]


Tack för en fantastisk eftermiddag! Jag och en av de andra gruppdeltagarna försökte analysera upplevelsen efteråt men det blev mest att vi satt som två fånar och flinade ikapp.


Jag rekommenderar Andys repterapi varmt! Det var en fantastisk upplevelse för mig. Jag är ofta väldigt aktiv och initiativtagande – i intima möten, i jobbet,i det mesta jag gör – […]


Jag sökte upp Andy pga att jag var nyfiken och ville testa något nytt. Hans sätt att möta en och “hålla space” är otroligt bra. Man känner sig trygg och […]


This summer I had been lucky to see the shibari workshop performed by Andy Buru. I love shibari as an art form and as a tool for opening true desires. […]


It was a journey between Mother Earth and Universe. With unconditional love connected from the first moment to the last breath together.


Under många år har min hals inte varit min egen. Andetag mot min hals. Närhet med min hals, det gick bara inte. Och det var därför jag vände mig till […]


Taking a session with Andy has been for me a journey into unknown that opened to a deeper intimacy inside myself and a level of relaxation I haven’t felt before. […]


Workshopen öppnade ögon för så mycket. De små sakerna du sa och hur de kan appliceras överallt och i relaterande med människor. I litet och stort. Till exempel så mediterade […]


Really good workshops! Andy creates a safe, fun and sensual space for exploration of intimacy through the use of ropes. Highly recommend!

Peter Nordström

That was quite a mind blowing 4 days. Remembering how apprehensive I was about taking the leap, as new as both me and my partner are to both BDSM and […]


Det känns som att jag har fått lära mig stegen till en ny dans. En dans som jag tidigare inte visste om. En dans som nu efter bara några korta […]


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Mattis Norrvidd

I am still processing the beauty of the first session – and feeling extremely good about it. Something big changed inside myself and I feel confident about my own identity […]


Every session with Andy is like opening a mysterious box of secrets – secrets that are deeply hidden under numerous layers of external garbage that I tend to call “self”. […]